Monday, November 11, 2013

My...Oh My

Calvin has learned to say "What's that" in the past week or so and he's saying it more and more while pointing at stuff. Tonight we had a "What's that" session of the kitchen as he sat on my hip. He wants to be up high so he can see what we see. I had been toiling around the kitchen all afternoon prepping dinner and baking brownies so I left my step stool out. Calvin thought that step stool was put there just for him! He could stand there and watch everything I was doing for dinner and how our food is made.

Aside from the dinner in process, Calvin was really stuck on seeing his dirty bowls and sippy cups in his side of the sink. I explained several times that those are dirty and after you eat or drink from it this is where it goes and mommy has to wash them so you can use it again. After everything was in the oven and underway I got Calvin off the stool and sat down to the laptop to do some household budgeting. After a few minutes I kept hearing; bang, clang, clank...bang, clang, clank.....bang, clang, clank. As focused as I was my curiosity and worry got to me so I walked around the bar to see what the noise was.

This is what I was met with...........

I have NO IDEA how he got from that ladder into the sink but he was serious about "washing" those dishes! Total EPIC moment!!! He even took all the dishes from the other side of the sink and was "washing" those too! Then he threw a fit as I lifted him out of the sink and walked him strait to the tub.  

I realize how dangerous this could have been with him doing that kind of climbing; he did get a talk in the tub about how that's not exactly how dishes are washed and he can help next time mommy does them. However,  it shows he is learning and paying attention and hopefully it means he appreciates all the housework mommy does!

xoxo & baby giggles

DIY crafts and Internet cooking

We've all seen our friends share those "easy crafts" and scrumptious suppers shared on Facebook. They tout headings like "only 4 ingredients and only 20 mins in the oven!". I was suckered in by a few of those recipes and here was the outcome.


Scramble eggs with a mixer (for smooth beating) and either season or pour over veggies. One egg per muffin cup. Bake for 15 minutes at 400 degrees. Healthy breakfast!

Here's the real life "egg muffin". No veggies as I had none on hand but was only seasoned egg. Not so pretty and symmetrical. No idea how these eggs got so out of control! We ate them but I never made this again. Even though the herbs were blended with the mixer it's like they floated to the top during baking. Just weird. 

With the holidays coming up I've seen the Salt Dough DIY hand/foot print ornament recipe. Sentimental and inexpensive when you're living on a budget to give as gifts to family. Here is the super easy internet version...

.....and here is ours. Ours are not painted or technically complete yet but you can tell that they are a world of difference. Lol, seriously I'm not trying to discourage anyone from trying anything but have an open mind and be realistic. You never know if you don't at least try! 

Happy DIY'ing!!!!

xoxox and baby giggles

Sunday, November 10, 2013

When did Parenting Come with So Many Labels?

This wasn't really intended to be a "part 2" per say to the post of No More Mommy Wars but I suppose the topics go hand in hand.

I grew up in a very old fashioned home with older parents. My mom was forty and my daddy was fifty-six when I was born in 1983. It was a bit of a time wrap from how we did things and how other families did things. The Jones's may have done things one way and we have done them another but our parents were just parents at the end of the day.

Fast forward to January 2012 when I found out the Little Monster was nesting in the lair and my research began. About having the best pregnancy, the best birthing plan, all the current parenting trends. I was researching everything you could think of. Between my pre-existing conditions and Hyperemesis Gravidarum, the best pregnancy went out the window. Turning my focus to parenting methods I was overwhelmed with all the info and the criss cross bashing and bad mouthing between the populations who practiced each.

Can not forget to mention all the sub categories which in my opinion are just made up and have only gained ground because of the internet. Like "organic family", "breastfeeding family/mom" or "non-vaxing family". One decision in parenting doesn't make it an entire philosophy, but I have come to realize parents who choose not to vaccinate tend to follow a certain type of lifestyle that is mostly absent of modern medicine.

Regardless, why all the labels? What happened to everyone just being parents and making different decisions? Why do we have to be in one category or another? Why not just say "oh, we do things as natural as possible in our home and not vaccinating is what we feel is best" instead of "we ARE anti-vax in our house". That gives off a tone of superiority and I believe that is what turns most people off including myself.

We all just want to do the best job at being our kids parents as possible and we may see things differently or find different ways of doing things. My way doesn't make me better than you and your way doesn't make you better than me. Can we just be friends and respect each others choices?

xoxo and baby giggles

DISCLAIMER:  I am by no means cornering or picking on families who choose not to vaccinate. I just needed something to make a point. I could have used anything; organic only, baby wearing, breastfeeding ect...not an attack by any means.

Saturday, November 9, 2013

Zulily Review

Zulily is another online shopping site that offer more than just clothes. You can also purchase accessories, toys and other playtime things. The difference with Zulily is that the merchandise is not their own brand. They are like an outlet mall offering products from various retailers for discounted rates. Quantities are limited, there may only be only a few items in each size.

Once you make selections and purchase, you wait. Wait, and wait and wait. Once your order, they then wait for the rest of that item to sell out and they wait for the bulk order to arrive from the retailer. Then your order is packaged and on it's way to you.

I used Zulily once and waited almost six weeks for one t-shirt to arrive. I wasn't completely crazy about the process. However, I have a lot of friends who use Zulily and love it.  I suppose if you are planning way in advance it's a great process. I'll say that the concept is a good idea, it's just how long they take to complete the whole process is a bummer for me.

It's ify if I will use the website again. I personally just don't like to wait more than a week. When I see something I want and I make that order, I'm excited about getting it. Whatever "it" may be, I'm in suspense until it's in my hands.

Here is Calvin in his Nautica Zulily steal.

xoxo and baby giggles

Friday, November 8, 2013

No More Mommy Wars

The term "mommy wars" has been floating around for several years, at least that I know of. It really came to my attention in 2012 when I was pregnant. I had no idea just how big of a deal or how serious *some* women took breastfeeding, cloth diapering, vaccines and other various parenting choices.

Summer of 2012 when I was in my third trimester the memorable Life magazine cover of "Are you Mom Enough" which featured a cover photo of a sorority looking girl with her boob flopped over a tank top and breastfeeding her three year old son.

Boy was I blown away with this message and what I was supposed to do once this Little Monster got here. Attachment Parenting...huh?? The woman featured in this photo was interviewed on the Today Show shortly after the release of the Time issue and made the subtle claim that she had no control over the photo on the cover and just wanted to get the dialog going.

At the time I was on a lot of pregnancy, infant and parenting pages on social media and people either applauded and supported this cover or hated it. There was no "dialog" going about attachment parenting but there was sure a lot of cyber bulling that reeked of sanctimoniousness. Over time I weeded those pages out of my feeds not to mention a few friends who just did not know when to stop. 

Now that I've been at this mommy thing for fourteen months, when I look back at all the obnoxiousness or when I do run across some online argument turn nasty I think who are these people and do they act like this in real life? Come to think of it, I've never gone to any park where there was a "mommy war" under way with mommies catapulting rocks and dirty diapers at each other. That raises the question of just what are mommy wars and what is keeping it going? I'm not looking for the generic answer of "mommy wars are moms who are on opposite ends of the parenting spectrum". Think about the word "war" and what that usually indicates; combat, rumor spreading or verbal attack, egging houses, other random violence. I can't recall hearing any news story about a moms being arrested after pulling each other's hair out in a yoga studio because one wouldn't listen to the other's baby wearing philosophies. The only thing from the war list I have ever seen demonstrated is verbal attack and where is that happening 90% of the time? You got it, online groups/clubs and social media. 

I think of women who are doing the war raising so to speak as people from the MTV show Catfish. Their lives are so bland, boring or unfulfilled that they tout themselves as some sort of expert putting others down who haven't and need to "research". In real life they are just desperate for attention they will take it from any outlet they can. 

"Do your research" they say and you'll know why "we cloth diaper in this house and you'll find there is nothing better". Then there is someone who feels they must crusade against this slander and then it starts. Around and around and around they go; posting links and quoting doctors. Your classic mommy war. There might be people in real life who try to shove their ways down your throat but in real life you say no thank you and/or walk away. Just don't engage this online silliness with strangers who need to feel fulfilled in some way. It's pouring gas on a fire. 

You can save yourself from the wasted time and energy by just leaving the group or unlike a page or never join them if you haven't signed up for any yet.  Try a few if you must but never feel obligated to remain someone's friend or worry what these strangers will think if you leave the group if things start getting out of hand. 

I'm not here to bash any choice. You want to breastfeed for four years, do it. You'd prefer to formula feed, do it. You want to cloth diaper, do it. You prefer Huggies, ok. You love Moby wraps, alright. You'd rather stick with a stroller, no problem. You want to co-sleep until whenever, whatever works for your house. 

Since when did our personal preferences and methods become everyone else's business? 
Stop the mommy wars.....stop engaging. If there is no one engaging then there will be no one to war with.

xoxo and baby giggles

Thursday, November 7, 2013

FabKids Review

So you may have heard of a website over the last few years called "JustFab" ( that selects shoes according to your preferences and style and includes shipping for a monthly membership fee of $39.95. I heard of it several years ago but never used it.

I believe it was our last Citrus Lane box we got a free trial for FabKids, which is the new kid clothing division. They market their styles to be "fashion that is play ready". I'll try most anything on a hassle free trial and we would get a free outfit out of it; so signed up I did.

Just like any other store there will be garments and designs you like and don't like. We got the free outfit plus two months of membership which means one outfit per month (total of 3 outfits). The sizes start at XXS and run through XL. The outfits are a little big on Calvin since the XXS fits like a 2T or 3T. The shirts aren't so baggy but the pants he's got a little bit of growing to do. One outfit he could luckily wear with a little bit of tucking and rolling up, I was glad since it's my favorite outfit.

Best sweater EVER made!!! I couldn't have said it better myself. Thanks FabKids!!

Overall, I would continue a membership once Calvin got a little bit older and can actually wear the sizes they offer. The one thing I didn't care for was not being able to go back and redo your profile to get different monthly "picks". That would be the only thing I  would suggest they change and I would agree with the "play ready" part. The clothes are very functionable and flexible. 

Cool website!

xoxo and baby giggles.....

Monday, October 28, 2013

Citrus Lane vs. Bluum

So in case you have not heard of either of these companies; they offer the same basic service. You sign up for a membership tailored to your child's gender and age for $25 a month. Each month your child receives a box full of featured products that far exceeds the $25 monthly fee. According to the companies the average retail value of the boxes are around $80.

Here is a link to each company and you can check them out for yourself.....

After using both services here is my two cents. We have received cool stuff from each company, they have very similar grass roots, a parent with an idea story and beginning. Although still somewhat similar, where they differ is product style. Citrus Lane is a little more organic/earth mama-ish while Bluum is a little more upscale boutique merchandise. Well go figure since Bluum is based in New York, makes sense I suppose. They both have great customer service and products. I can't not recommend either one, which one you prefer will depend on your style.

My vote...we're Bluum! I like that boutique touch.

If you decide to give either one a try, you can tell them I recommended them.

xoxo...and baby giggles

Sunday, October 27, 2013

Another First..

Thursday night Calvin played a game of catch me if you can at bedtime. He loves how he can just slide out of his tot bed and run to his toy box. This little game of chasing and putting back in bed threw my back out. So, to allow me to rest and heal Calvin went on his first sleep over with some family friends who were also babysitting another friend's little boy. He is a little older but Calvin will play with anyone. A one night sleep over has turned into two night and I sure do miss the little Baby Bear! I know some moms wouldn't let their babies out of their sight so young but he is having such a much better time than at home with a pain ridden grumpy mama.

The quiet has been kinda nice and allowing myself to heal was a much better choice than trying to be Super-Mom. I can't wait to hug and kiss him when I pick him up!


Friday, October 25, 2013

Milestones, milestones and more milestones

I recently wrote about Calvin's 1st birthday which was last month. When you have a new baby everyone including perfect strangers stop and tell you "enjoy this, it goes by so fast". During the time when you're up all night, making bottles or nursing around the clock...or both and going through the colic phase you think please let this go by fast! At least I did! PLEASE let this pass, I wanna do fun stuff like finger paint and carnival  rides.

Now thirteen months into this wild journey I now know how true that statement is and I wish some parts hasn't gone by so fast. Ok, so maybe not the first two weeks when we fine tuning a routine and getting our footing in being parents but after that some things could have slowed down. Calvin has zoomed through development and milestones at rapid pace despite what he has been through. He hasn't let it slow him down, much less stop him. I don't think he even knows the meaning of the world. Seriously, I don't think he does!

He could always make a face, even from day one. Literally.

From just barely sitting in a highchair to sitting at his own table feeding himself.

Bassinet to crib to toddler bed.....


Two months and twelve months in his swing. We only use it for a nightlight now but every now and then he climbs in to show me he can.

He started climbing and crawling out of things at four months...I should have known this was a sign!

.......and there's that carnival I was waiting on!

All in the blink of an eye. Treasure every moment. If I could go back and do it over it would have been to tune out the opinions of the world (except the ones I actually asked for) and did what felt  right for me. Time passes too fast to worry about the right baby product or the color of socks. 


A new chapter...

With all the up and down with Calvin's health issues and just being a new mommy in general, I have struggled to juggle the working mom act. I lost the battle three weeks ago. As much as we needed the health insurance to cover our family, which was the only reason why I continued to work; it is clear it just was not God's plan for that to be my place. I am first and always a wife and mommy and someone's employee second. I'm a dedicated person but I'm more dedicated to my family. Period. While I am seeking new employment, I'm also soaking up this time with Calvin and just being Mrs. Cleaver while it lasts. I've also been thinking outside the box for ways to earn income and maybe keep this Mrs. Cleaver gig, but I'm not telling secrets yet. We are trusting God to provide for us and to show the path that was meant for us.

Slightly off topic; but after three weeks out of daycare, this is the first time since he was four months old Calvin's nose hasn't dripped or been stopped up. 


Sunday, October 13, 2013

Toddler bed at 13 mos? Why yes...

So this morning we were awoken by a loud CRASH, THUD and BANG. I thought perhaps I was dreaming, but a second later when I came to out of my sleepiness I rolled out of bed and rushed around the corner to find Calvin walking around with pure pride. He had climbed out of his crib! I had been planning to get a toddler bed anyway because I knew this was only a matter of time but this morning sealed the deal. Off to Toys R Us we went for a guard rail and the crib was converted to the day bed setting. I picked out the wrong size guard rail so pillows are making do until tomorrow. No roll out accidents during nap time though.

Here's to another mile stone!

Saturday, October 12, 2013

Calvin's 1st Birthday

His birthday is September 15th but since that was a Sunday we celebrated on the fourteenth at Chuck E. Cheese. Calvin loved it and everyone had a good time. Just about everyone who said they were coming came, best turn out I've ever had for a party I've planned. Our friends were so kind and generous!

Calvin's Invitation 

 Smash Cake!!







A party wouldn't be complete without a tantrum over a party hat! Calvin was much nicer to this cake than his smash cake photos, I was expecting a huge mess! 

And with a toddler begins..

xoxo..and baby smiles

Sunday, September 29, 2013

Follow up with Pulmonologist

It's been a busy busy month with Calvin's birthday and I'm little behind on updates......

Here we go..

The week of his birthday he had is six week follow up with Dr. Sah. Basically just keep doing what we are doing with a few adjustments as improvements have been made with is wheezing and coughing spells. I didn't realize I had been giving him Albuterol through the neb machine every night and that was only for REALLY bad day and regular use will stop it from being effective. I explained that he was not inhaling enough of the Symbicort because he didn't fully understand to inhale. He's not afraid of the mask anymore but now it looks like a toy to him and he wants to bite it, lick it, carry it around, everything but what he's suppose to do with it. So instead, he has a new medicine for the neb called Pulmicort. It's the same as Symbicort just the inhaled version. It's working great so far!


Sunday, August 18, 2013

"Mommy I Don't Mind"

Mommy I don't mind if you feed me from your breast, or a bottle of good start or similac. As long as my tummy is full, mommy I don't mind. 

I don't mind mommy, if you put Huggies diapers on me, pampers, luvs or cloth and pins. I As long as my tiny bum is clean, mommy I don't mind. 

Mommy I don't mind, if you bath me in the big tub, the sink, or a baby bath. I don't mind if you use bubbles, or if my soap smells like lavender. As long as I'm clean mommy I don't mind.

Mommy I don't mind if I fall asleep on your chest, in your bed or in a crib with sheets with fancy colors or a little blue blankie. As long as your there when I wake up, mommy I don't mind. 

Mommy I don't mind , if my clothes are new, if they are hand me downs, if they are fancy or if they match. As long as I'm warm, then mommy I don't mind. Mommy 

I don't mind if you get a little frustrated, and need a little break, as long as you love me,mommy I don't mind. 

Mommy I don't mind how ever you do things. Whatever your doing your making me happy. So don't worry if your doing something wrong or right, because really mommy, I don't mind

DISCLAIMER: I did not write this poem and I do not know who did. I would certainly give them credit if I did know the author. 

Thursday, August 15, 2013

Our First Visit with the GI doctor

It's so nice to walk into a doctor's office and be believed! Calvin has a lady doctor named Dr. Whitney and he couldn't be happier either.

The office was very welcoming and had a nice play area but Calvin wasn't much interested because there were people to entertain. Apparently today was twin day at Pediatric DHAT, when we got there there were teen boy/girl twins and after they left in rolled 22 month old twin boys. Oh my, Calvin was so infatuated with them and their special stroller. He kept trying to climb in and they kept pushing him out, he just couldn't figure out why they didn't want to be friends.

But anyway....

We didn't wait very long in the exam room when the doctor came in. She was very quick and precise with the information she was looking for. She told me that all babies reflux between 4 - 6 months and the ones who have it worse may need something like the Zantac like Calvin has been on since he was 4 months old. However, it should be outgrown by 6 months old and anything beyond that is more than just normal reflux. Dr. Whitney recommended two things; for starters we are stopping the Zantac and starting him on Prevacid to turn off the acid enzymes rather than just trying to reduce the amount of acid. I think it is enzymes that produce the acid? Whatever it is Prevacid turns them off. She is also concerned with damage to his esophagus because it has gone on so long and recommended doing a quick endoscopy. Calvin would again have to be put under but the same type where it's just gas and the procedure would take ten minutes to check on things. We have a major insurance network and hospital hurdle that we are stuck on but first we are going to see how well he does on the Prevacid. He will start his new medicine tomorrow. Dr. Whitney was also appalled that a referral was not made sooner, she also said his development was a little advanced! We have done something right at least!

xoxo...and baby giggles

Sunday, August 4, 2013

Our Visit with the Pulmonologist

Almost two weeks ago Calvin saw his new pulmonologist Dr. Sah and finally it feels like we got some answers. Preliminary answers, but at least we're getting somewhere. I was surprised at how young he is but Will and I both feel like he knows his stuff.

After at least thirty minutes of going over his history and answering questions, Dr. Sah's conclusion is his reflux is playing a part from aspiration and recommended a stronger antacid but since Calvin is already seeing a gastroenterology doctor on August 15th he did not prescribe any medicine for that other than to keep taking what he is taking.

Dr. Sah agreed with the RAD diagnosis as well and explained it doesn't guarantee asthma later down the road as some kids do outgrow it and some don't. Technically asthma can be diagnosed at age two but he preferred to not diagnosis until age five when comprehensive testing can be done. The tests are not invasive but they have to be old enough to understand the directions in order to take them. RAD is treated with very similar medications but much lower doses due to age. He gave us Symbicort to try with him first as it is the lowest does of inhaled steroid possible and it is a daily medication for symptom control. Much like the Advair that I take at an adult dose for my asthma. Just in this first week on the medicine I have noticed improvement with his wheezing and coughing. Calvin has also gotten better with taking his medicine too, he hold his mask like a big boy and everything.

I have been able to stop irrigating his nose with saline everyday and sucking his nose out. The ear tubes have helped tremendously with that as well. Tubes took so much pressure out of his head. He has been able to drain crud properly, he can sneeze and he's not holding his ears in pain anymore. Everyone has been so much happier. I so regret not doing it after the first consult with the first ENT. Thank Jesus for the aggressive anesthesiologist who believed me and realized this was just not "another little daycare cold" and made all these recommendations which validated I wasn't just being an over dramatic mom.

Next we meed the pediatric GI doctor on the 15th and our new pediatrician in September for Calvin's one year checkup!!

xoxo...and a little bit of drool

Monday, July 15, 2013

Calvin's First Surgery

He finally had tubes put in today. It took switching back to our original ENT after a fiasco last week when it was supposed to be done but we got it done! Just hours after the procedure he is acting like a new baby.

              Doesn't he look so excited to be here?                                 His hospital jammies.

This fiasco we went through last week left us at a cross roads with our current set of care providers. I understand being safe and I want to be safe with my baby but our current doctors have been too safe. Almost barely acknowledging Calvin has a chronic problem. Last week when we were denied clearance for surgery last week the reason given was "he sounds wheezy". Well ok, we were left to wait for a hour in the waiting room in which Calvin bounced off the walls and it was all I could do to keep him from tearing down their office. He's been extremely hyper I bet he is wheezy! That is why he was diagnosed with RAD and has Albuterol for. Then I heard the same thing I've been hearing for months.."give things another week and he might dry up with warmer weather".


It's July, we are half way through the summer and it s 105 degrees and he's NOT DRYING UP! I never went to medical school but I do grasp the concept of a chronic condition and chronic isn't just sometimes or only on Tuesdays that the blue birds come out and chirp. RAD is baby asthma and it's not going away overnight. A lot of infants do outgrow RAD and doesn't guarantee an asthma diagnosis later in life but it's not outgrown in a week. It's like they are treating this a just an ongoing cold and not what it actually is.

This surgery by the way does not require intubation, only gas and no IV's and lasts about ten minutes. None of that was taken into account for; he will only get sick again and sicker as he did two weeks prior with the crud and congestion and fluid sitting inside of him. The tubes will keep all that drained.

I was mad! Really mad to say the least! When I got to work last Monday I called ENT Care for Kids which was the first people we saw. I wish I hadn't left and had done the surgery two months ago instead of listening to too many opinions. Calvin wouldn't be going through this now. It was the right thing all along. Luckily, just luckily the Dr was willing to take us back and squeeze us in that day. I walked in with my head hung in shame and told our story of the last two months. He did his own evaluation and exam and didn't think the wheeze was serious enough to not proceed. After I did some checking with insurance with the hospital he could do it at we scheduled surgery two days later. I also began to re-think my pediatrician choice and after taking the week to think decided it was time to cut ties. We will be moving to the practice I was going to take him to when he was born. I've heard nothing but good about them from numerous sources.

The big day...7/15/13. We headed out the door around 5:30am for the hospital; the Texas Health Resources Center for Diagnostics and Surgery and everything about check in and registration went smoothly. The nurses were excellent and they even brought out a wagon for him to around around the unit to to occupy him until it got closer to being taken back. He was elated about riding around in the wagon! This got him worked up into a wheeze which made me nervous since we had gotten this far. The anesthesiologist came in to exam him and she started asking who his pulmonlogist was and why hadn't he been referred to one after his RAD diagnosis?? I told him I had the same questions but we were in the process of moving pediatricians. She suggested going ahead and looking someone up and booking my own appointment because she definitely agreed he has RAD. She ordered a neb treatment for him to see if it would calm things down along with getting him to sit still with some cartoons. It worked! She barely cleared him but stilled cleared. They carried him back for the procedure and the waiting began. Give or take ten minutes later Dr. Badi came in the holding room and went over what they did. They sucked a ton of goop out of his little head, all the junk that has been making him sick over and over. He has some anti-biotic ear drops to take for the next five days to kill whatever tiny bits of goop they couldn't reach in nooks and crannies. By the time we got done chatting Calvin was ready in recovery and off around the corner I went where he was wrapped in a blanket and being held by a nurse who was showing him his heart monitor. He was very calm and happy but drowsy and definitely ready for something to drink. Will had just gotten off work and had finally made it just in time for the anesthesiologist to come out and go over he part. He had done great with the anesthesia and came out pretty good and reminded me again about seeing the pulmonary doctor and also mentioned seeing a digestive specialist for his GERD since that had not been thoroughly explored either and she gave me a personal referral to the best in town! I loved this doctor!! She also told me if I had to see our normal pediatrician while we are transitioning and they wanted to doubt his RAD to call her personally and she would set them strait!

           Wagon ride around the hallways!                                                 Calming down with cartoons.

We were going home about thirty minutes later!

He recovered quickly!

We will have a post-op follow up in a few weeks and several appointments with specialists over the next few weeks too. Updates will follow.

XOXO...and a little bit of drool

Sunday, July 7, 2013

10 Rules for Dating My Teenage Son

Ok, so he's only 9 months old and we've got a ways to go till we cross this bridge. Today this article....if it can be called that...popped up in my news feed on Facebook.

10 Rules for Dating my Daughter. I have seen so many mommy blogs with similar titles and similar requirements over the last year and half. They start off with a similar paragraph; "my little princess is only two but I dread they day she is no longer a baby and brings home the first boy", or something like that. HA! Much like this post just started. Well here is my rebuttal and two cents...

1. No means NO!! Calvin has been taught since now, his infant hood that some things are "no-no's" and there are places his little hands don't go. Right now it's the cleaning products under the sink and mommy's photo frames on the end table. One day when the time is right he will be taught about girly parts and alcohol and other dangerous fun that isn't so fun when things go wrong. When he tells you NO, don't nag him, don't whine and cry, He has our permission to leave you on the side of the road or a parking lot to get himself out of a potentially bad situation that you are trying to drag him into.

2. An open door means an OPEN door! Literally and metaphorically. It means no barely cracked doors while you crawl under a blanket with him so the creek of the door gives you enough time to jump out of the blanket. It means wide open like the Sierra Desert plains which takes away your five second lead way. It also means we are open parents who are not afraid of anything Calvin needs to say or needs guidance on. His parents combined have years of bad choices to pull from and we know where things can lead and how they turn out. We don't want this for our son.   Your teenage sweet nothings are not a secret, and any influence you try to have over him to steer him from what we have taught him will be noticed and dealt with.

3. Condoms are not optional...IF there is any sex at all! Calvin is not your meal ticket! We will teach him first and foremost about waiting until marriage. God's design for marriage. What real love and a stable relationship looks like. We will teach him about life goals and education so he can one day provide for a family. However, if when he is old enough to leave the house on his own and he decides sex can't wait he will have been thoroughly taught what pregnancy costs, what preparing for a baby costs, what labor and delivery costs, what daycare costs, what time lost from work because the baby is sick costs. What diapers and wipes and breast pumps and formula costs. Oh yea, and what child birth looks like; like National Geographic wide open vag stretched ten ways from Sunday or the bloody mess an emergency c-section looks like. Then his dad will teach him how to properly and correctly roll a condom on and make sure there is always "emergency" cash in his wallet for a Trojan 3 pack. I'm confident that Walmart and CVS will still be open 24 hours a day eighteen years from now.

4. There is a such a thing as too much PDA. I know when there is new love in the air all you want to do is touch each other. That touching should be limited to holding hands, a hug and a kiss on the cheek. If caught sucking face, Calvin will be in trouble and I'm telling your parents!

5. Keep your fingers out of his belt loops. I'm talking about the girls who walk around the mall with their fingers intertwined in the boy's belt loops as if the boys are puppy dogs they need to keep on leashes. Calvin is not your property.  He is my Baby Bear, my little Monster NOT your puppy dog! Until the day he is completely out of our house and wallets and living on his own he will continue to be my Baby Bear. Don't let Mama Bear catch you doing this!

6. Don't obsessively call and text. Ya'll aren't grown up, you aren't his wife and you don't own him! We pay for that phone that you are blowing up and I WILL take it away and answer it. I will change the number if I have to and I will save all the evidence and send it to your parents. Don't underestimate my investigation abilities. Take a line from Miranda Lambert and "Hide your crazy and start acting like a lady". On the flip side of the coin I will find out if Calvin is leading you on and I will nip that in the bud just as fast! His wrath will not be fun or pretty.

7. Don't break curfew. This is pretty straight forward. It's each of your having respect for the parents involved.  Going out and having fun is a privilege that can be taken away.

8. Don't lie. Don't stretch the truth. Don't be a drama queen.  I will catch you. I might be an old mom, but I'm exactly that. Older, wiser, been there done that and your type is not a new concept. Don't lie to Calvin, don't lie to us, don't like to your parents. If you just tell the truth you won't have to have a good memory later.

9. He's smart. Get over it. The second day we were home from the hospital we popped in a Baby Einstein DVD in hopes of boosting his brain cell growth. I guess it worked because he crawled at 5 1/2 months and was walking with assistance at 9 months. There are too many other numerous milestones he hit early to list. We've worked hard his whole life to help him reach is full potential. We are not going to stand by and let you convince him he is sub-par in any way.

10. He's comfortable in his skin. Let's keep it that way. If you aren't attracted to all of my son, and you want to pick apart his biceps, hair style or his clothes or his life goals or anything in between......hit the road Jezebel and don't you dare come back! He doesn't need you tearing down his self esteem.

Got it? Good. You won't be met at the door by a mama with a shot gun pointed at your face. Maybe...

XOXO...and a little bit of drool

Monday, July 1, 2013

Poor sick baby. Our first visit to Downtown Children's.

Calvin was scheduled for surgery on Tuesday to have tubes in his ears. That all changed last Monday, or maybe technically last Sunday. Out of the blue he just started spiking a fever and became un-playful. He had started a horrid sounding cough Saturday but he has has that on and off for months. As the night went on Sunday he started breathing fast and sounded like he was working hard to breath. I didn't like what I was hearing but we had an appointment with his ENT in less than twelve hours for pre-op clearance. Something told me there would be no surgery this week. I didn't sleep much that night, I kept waking up to check his breathing.

Monday morning came and he was still running fever. We went to his appointment and his ENT doctor,  Dr. Carder took a peek in his ears and said sure enough he had a current infection which makes five in five months. Yep, no surgery. He went on to listen to his lungs and told me that they "sounded like a train wreck" and I needed to take him somewhere now for more assessment. He guessed he would have a chest x-ray and breathing treatments. We re-scheduled for July 9th and I walked out to the car to call our pediatrician. They didn't have any openings until 4pm. I left a message for the nurse to see if we could be squeezed in any sooner. I drove to a nearby McDonald's for breakfast and to slow down my racing mind. I went through drive through and sat in the backseat with Calvin. He looked worse than he did fifteen minutes ago in the doctor's office. I was able to reach Will and I told him what I was told. After discussing the hospital options I had around me we decided Downtown Children's was the best place to be in the worst case scenario. Off I went with a whimpering baby in the backseat.

Children's is even larger than it looks from the freeway, also note that it's attached to Parkland. I work at a very large hospital and used to navigating multiple buildings and such and even I felt overwhelmed. The folks that get lost and complain about our hospital layout would end up on milk cartons in this place. Children's/Parkland resembles a mini city.

For all the stories I've heard about how busy and packed Children's ER stays I was really surprised at how fast triage happened and how fast treatment started. They sent him to fast track which I was upset about because I felt he had real problems going on. I've worked around healthcare long enough to know that fast track = BS. I didn't think being told by a doctor to seek medical attention NOW because he sounds like a train wreck is BS! Surprisingly though the NP treating him did take everything serious and there was no dilly dally and she was aggressive where it needed to be. We still spent all day there but it was a productive all day event. Not just spending four hours in the waiting room waiting to get seen type of ER visit.

He was given Motrin, suctioned, a nose swab and then an anti-biotic shot (1 of 3 part series) since he had been on other oral medicines with the previous four infections.The shot was awful; the dose was split into two syringes so so much medicine wasn't injected into the same muscle. Mainly comfort measure. It was obviously painful because he cried for twenty minutes and I cried for five. After he calmed down they took for chest x-ray which came out clear. Last step was breathing treatment which was a going home medicine. He was diagnosed with the ear infection, rhino virus and reactive airway disease since he as built up a history of these symptoms.

Ready to go home!!

You can read about RAD here....

Calvin's Albuterol for wheezing and coughing. Treated much like asthma

He got his other two shots in the pediatricians office on Tuesday and Wednesday. His fever broke finally on Wednesday and life resumed on Thursday. WHEW! It was a long tiring week but he has made a decent recovery.

He got a "stick" for letting Dr. Crow check his ears       Day 3 and final shot. This is what he thought of 3 shots in 3 days!

xoxo and a little bit of drool