Sunday, November 10, 2013

When did Parenting Come with So Many Labels?

This wasn't really intended to be a "part 2" per say to the post of No More Mommy Wars but I suppose the topics go hand in hand.

I grew up in a very old fashioned home with older parents. My mom was forty and my daddy was fifty-six when I was born in 1983. It was a bit of a time wrap from how we did things and how other families did things. The Jones's may have done things one way and we have done them another but our parents were just parents at the end of the day.

Fast forward to January 2012 when I found out the Little Monster was nesting in the lair and my research began. About having the best pregnancy, the best birthing plan, all the current parenting trends. I was researching everything you could think of. Between my pre-existing conditions and Hyperemesis Gravidarum, the best pregnancy went out the window. Turning my focus to parenting methods I was overwhelmed with all the info and the criss cross bashing and bad mouthing between the populations who practiced each.




Can not forget to mention all the sub categories which in my opinion are just made up and have only gained ground because of the internet. Like "organic family", "breastfeeding family/mom" or "non-vaxing family". One decision in parenting doesn't make it an entire philosophy, but I have come to realize parents who choose not to vaccinate tend to follow a certain type of lifestyle that is mostly absent of modern medicine.

Regardless, why all the labels? What happened to everyone just being parents and making different decisions? Why do we have to be in one category or another? Why not just say "oh, we do things as natural as possible in our home and not vaccinating is what we feel is best" instead of "we ARE anti-vax in our house". That gives off a tone of superiority and I believe that is what turns most people off including myself.

We all just want to do the best job at being our kids parents as possible and we may see things differently or find different ways of doing things. My way doesn't make me better than you and your way doesn't make you better than me. Can we just be friends and respect each others choices?


xoxo and baby giggles




DISCLAIMER:  I am by no means cornering or picking on families who choose not to vaccinate. I just needed something to make a point. I could have used anything; organic only, baby wearing, breastfeeding ect...not an attack by any means.