Wednesday, June 11, 2014
Book Review: "Bottled Up: How the Way We Feed Babies Has Come to Define Motherhood, and Why It Shouldn't"
I've been on The Fearless Formula Feeder Facebook page for a year or little more. I hate that I didn't find this page and blog a lot sooner than I did. Calvin and I never really did have a breastfeeding relationship despite my desperate efforts. He was pretty much a bottle baby from the beginning. Despite what my plans had been, the kid had to eat. Period.
Calvin was around seven to nine months old when I came across the FB page and I was so happy that there was support for the formula side of things. Since pregnancy I was on all the popular breastfeeding support pages, Medela, Natural Parenting and The Leaky B@@B and a few others I don't remember the names of. As means of dealing my my PPD (postpartum depression) I had to get get rid of all these pages out of my social media. It didn't happen, there was no going back and I had to deal with the now and now and make it through each day. I can't say much for Natural Parenting but Medela and The Leaky B@@B are great resources for nursing help! I have nothing against them and recommend them to new moms. However, it just wasn't were I belong anymore, I wasn't a nursing mom. I felt sad and devastated that I couldn't give Calvin "the best" and couldn't understand why he rejected me but he seemed very happy to take a bottle from me. I fed him and nourished him the best and proper way I could and that's all that mattered in the end.
The owner of The Fearless Formula Feeder page and blog Suzanne Barston wrote the book above about current parenting and feeding culture and how we got to where we are. I don't want to spoil the book but she opens the book with going back into the 1980's of how women were entering the workforce and formula was just seen as easier but the Nestle' scandal began to change that since third world conditions did not mix with proper formula usage. She incorporates her own story with of her struggles with her first child and how they ended up becoming "formula feeders". Again, without spoiling the book and re-writing the whole book in this post it all boils down to breastfeeding has become synonymous with superior parenting. Being the perfect mother and being able to say "I feed my baby the liquid gold".
I highly recommend reading this book if you are expecting, new parents and struggling with nursing or even if you are past the infant days but just want to know that you were not alone or may not be alone if you have future babies. Suzanne's research and sources are thorough and impeccable. The last thirty-eight pages of the book is citing her sources. This is not a cherry picked research project by any means
Happy reading ... xoxox and tot giggles